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Daughter: Find Your Own Voice

Dear Daughter,

Earlier today you watched, with your father and me, Donald J. Trump become the 45th President of the United States.  We watched the inauguration because we make a point to do so.  It's an amazing part of our democracy - the peaceful transition of power.  I love to watch the current president greet the president-elect at the White House.  For the inaugurations that I've seen, regardless of political affiliation, that moment has always been filled with warm hearts and immense class.

While we watched together, you studied me, searching for my thoughts and feelings.  You did so because you wanted to know how I felt, so that you could dutifully follow.  (You are my mini-me after all.)  It often seems you fear compromising our close bond should you sway from sharing my thoughts and preferences (even with food for goodness sake!), regardless of how often I encourage you to find your own voice.

As your mom, I will always share with you my thoughts and feelings, and more importantly my rationale for taking a position.  I will do this because you deserve to know my beliefs and values, and as my child, you seek it.  But, know this.  I encourage you to listen and ask me questions, but to also consider the ideas of others to which you've been exposed.

Let me be very clear: my love for you is not, and never will be, based on any conditions.  As you grow and mature, I encourage you to listen, watch, and participate in the world.  My hope is that your world is expansive, filled with diversity - interesting experiences and destinations that intrigue you to ask questions.  (I'll do my best to provide this in your young years, and pray that you'll choose to continue it when you sprout your wings and fly from the comforts of our nest.  I promise, there's no need to rush.)

When you ask questions, be curious.  It's so easy to be judgmental - to think others that have differing views are "crazy," "ridiculous," "stupid" even.  Those thoughts will surface - it's human nature.  But when they do, please don't listen.  Instead, allow the thirst to understand that which is strange to outweigh the desire to criticize or convince otherwise.  Doing so will enrich your life more than you know, and will give you the courage to leave your own footsteps, instead of just following in mine.

I love you mostest.

Be open to what comes.

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