Yesterday’s post got me thinking about perspective. Even though my daughter’s inquiry about why I GET to wake up so early set me off in the moment, it is a beautiful perspective to have. My perspective was the opposite - I HAVE to wake up early. There’s laundry to do, getting my daughter to school, getting myself ready and to work, and more. It’s quite obvious we weren’t on the same page at the time.
Making a conscious shift in the language we use about the myriad of things we have going on in our daily lives may help us feel more fulfilled. Think about it, how often do we hear ourselves, or others, using must/should/have instead of get/choose? I would suspect it’s more often than not.
In my experience, many live in a perpetual state of "have to" - we have to do this and must do that. It’s easy then to blame the unhappy aspects of our lives on someone or something else. But if we shift our language, it helps us be more appreciative of our experiences, and reinforces the fact that we’re making a choice to do something.
Let’s test it out. If you normally say you have to go grocery shopping, what changes for you if you were to say you get to go grocery shopping? You don’t have to go grocery shopping, right? You could order out every night. What if it’s too costly to do that? Then you choose to go grocery shopping so as to save money for other things.
And what about work? Even I say I have to go to work. Making the language shift from have to to get to makes the statement take on a whole different vibe. In that moment, I no longer feel that I'm being forced to work (outside of my control); I start to realize the blessing it is to have a job to go to that provides for my family (my choice).
I think you get my point here.
I don’t always remember to make the shift between the must/should/have and get/choose, but I do try to remind myself when I find my language slipping. Give it a try yourself and see how it may change your perspective.
Be open to what comes.