On this Thoughtful Thursday, I'm thinking about fear.
I listened to a podcast today that highlights bravery in everyday people in everyday situations. This one woman immigrated to the United States, completed her studies and worked for a global firm doing marketing and data analysis. She had this job for many years. She had always wanted to run her own business; so, she quit her job and started a business. She became quite ill after a time and had to give up her business. She fought her way back to health and started another business.
One thing that resonated in her story, other than perseverance, was fear. She feared quitting her job to start her own business. What if she failed? She feared not listening to herself when her instincts told her the medical treatment she was receiving was not right. What if she died?
She said something that I can't stop thinking about. She said that she had to become ok with fear being a companion rather than an enemy.
That statement resonated with me. I used to RUN from fear. I know a TON of people that run from fear. It's normal! We don't like fear! (Obviously, in some situations, fear is good and we should RUN LIKE HELL...like if we come face-to-face with literal death.) But most times, fear that plays out in our lives is fear of judgement. That's it. Judgement. And seriously, someone judging us will not equal death. We just FEEL like it does.
I have become more accustomed to fear over the past couple of years. I tend to hang out with it now. I feared becoming a life coach. What if I failed? I feared writing a blog for the world to see. What if people didn't like what I wrote? I feared taking on a new role at work. What if I sucked at it? I feared speaking up, stating my opinion. What if I looked like an idiot? What if I said something stupid?
Fear can stop us from so many wonderful things. Maybe the key is to befriend fear. Figure out why it's there and talk yourself off the ledge so that you can get to the wonderful parts of life.
Be open to what comes.