TGIF! I'm so excited it's Family Friday!
I listened to a podcast recently about parenting. The interviewer had a psychologist on discussing the varying challenges of parenting. He explained that parents are seeking guidance and techniques about how to get their kids to listen and cooperate. Lord knows there's plenty of guidance out there in books and on the Internet to tell us what to do! Yet, he said the thing that seems to be the most beneficial was...
Take a guess!
Changing themselves, or as I've heard it called, playing the inside game! That's right. When parents are willing to check in with themselves to understand what they can do about their own thoughts, triggers, reactions, etc, and make changes, they end up having a more peaceful relationship with their kids.
During the podcast, a quote by Brenè Brown was mentioned. It's actually a question...
What a powerful question! Are you the parent you want your child to grow up to be?
This one question makes one reflect. How do I speak to my child? What values do I want to impart? How do I make my child feel when they're around? Oh, there's so many more questions I could list! But, I think you get the point.
Look, all parents are gonna get frustrated by their kids. Completely normal! We parents find it hard to understand why and how to handle meltdowns, especially those over things like getting a blue cup vs a white cup. It's hard for us to get into the minds of our kids. And sometimes, damnit, we just don't want to have to explain ourselves. We just want our kids to do what we want! Right?!
I was that parent many years ago. And I can attest as to how different my life is since my journey inward. In fact, all my relationships are better, not just the relationship with my daughter.
If you want to improve your relationship with your kids, play the inside game. It's SO worth it!
Be open to what comes.