How many times have you been completely baffled by how someone acted or what they said? (A politician? A celebrity? A cray-cray co-worker?)
I would venture to say fairly often. And it's normal. We get curious, irritated, or even outraged when someone does something that we just can't understand.
Who does what doesn't matter. The point here is to know why it happens.
It's because every single one of us wears glasses individually unique to us, based upon our beliefs, values, and past experiences.
If you believe in God, you may get upset or out of sorts talking with or listening to someone profess that God doesn't exist.
If you value hard work, then you may consider those at work that are relaxed and not killing it everyday as lazy or incompetent.
If you experienced trauma earlier in life, you may have trust issues relating to that past experience.
All those beliefs, values, and past experiences shape who we are and how we engage with the world. And oftentimes we forget that not everyone sees the world as we do. Hence, we can lose our mind when someone does something stupid or crazy.
I am not certain we can ever completely remove our glasses. However, I know for a fact that we can lighten the tint of the lenses a bit, from moment to moment and over time...but only if we're conscious.
When I feel myself questioning, getting irritated, or even outraged by someone's actions or words, I ask myself what I might be missing. I remind myself that no one else wears my glasses. I then try to be as curious as possible as to what the other person sees through their glasses.
The realization that my glasses are unique to me has completely changed how I walk through life.
Spiritually, I think it's pretty cool that we're all unique. I imagine us all as a behemoth jigsaw puzzle. What an art it is to weave us all together the way He does.
On a more down-to-earth level, I'm more compassionate. I'm more forgiving. I'm more accepting of people as they are. In the end, I'm less stressed and more fulfilled. What a blessing.
Be conscious of your glasses and know that others don't always see things as you do.
Be open to what comes.