How do you discipline your kids? Yelling? Spanking? Timeouts? Not at all?
I know many of us parents struggle with the topic of discipline. We want our kids to learn and develop into adults that we'd be proud of. Hence, we typically provide consequences for unfavorable behavior. Problem is, often times the consequences don't work.
I listened to a podcast the other day that I am so excited to share with you parents about how to reduce drama with kids. It's actually a leadership podcast and typically discusses professional leadership. But, leadership permeates all facets of our lives. From personal leadership (how we lead ourselves) to leading/influencing others, like our kids.
The podcast expert is Tina Payne Bryson. She has numerous credentials, including authoring two books on the subject. She explains the original definition of the word, discipline, and why our typical methods don't work. Her suggestion is unconventional...love your kids through it and consider abstaining from consequences altogether in early years.
I have not read either of her books, but I must say, the method that she described in the podcast is similar to how I try to parent. And I actually do think it works. I used to do timeouts quite often my daughter was young, and spank on occassion. It never worked and I was so frustrated. Ultimately, I found my way to the more loving manner that I use now and I SWEAR it got better almost immediately. I don't worry about consequences or punishments anymore. I am more concerned about what to teach in the moment.
If you have littles at home, I highly encourage you to give this podcast a listen. Tina does a great job of giving examples that I can only imagine we ALL can relate to. She explains things in an accessible way, backing up her examples with science.
The podcast is entitled "How to Reduce Drama with Kids." The podcast is about 40 minutes long. Most of the info is provided within the first 30 minutes. The link above also gives some highlights of the podcast, along with links to resources mentioned and more.
I hope you find a useful tidbit or two from it!
Be open to what comes.