This Valentine's Day, I wanted to share a brief story with you.
A while after my husband and I started dating, I remember him asking me, "Have I told you I love you today?" I remember thinking how sweet that was! I thought I had hit the jackpot with this guy. Lucky me!
A few months after we got engaged, I met my husband's grandparents. I was intimidated meeting his family, as I think all fiancés are. He spoke of his grandparent's fondly—their relationship was special. Knowing how important they both were to him, I really wanted them to like me.
During our visit, I was clued into the fact that my husband's grandparents had a pretty special relationship between them, and not just with their grandson. One morning during our visit, my grandfather-in-law was cooking breakfast. He was whistling and singing—really enjoying himself. He then says to his wife of, I think, 56 years at this time, "I need to ask you a question." His tone was very serious. She says, "What's that?" He says, "Have I told you I love you today?" My jaw dropped! Not only was I shocked because it was not what I expected would come out of his mouth, but because I realized my husband stole that line from his grandfather!
My grandparents-in-law lived with us for the last years of their lives. My grandfather-in-law continued to ask his wife that same question, time and time again. Their relationship truly was special.
My husband continues to ask me this question, even after our 10+ years of marriage. I love it. Each time, it makes me stop what I'm doing. Each time, I think of how lucky I am. And each time, I recall the special relationship that my grandparents-in-law shared, and the impact it had on their grandson.
Now, we ask our daughter the question, "Have I told you I love you today?" She seems to love the question too. She'll answer "No," even if she knows the opposite is true. She does so because she wants extra kisses or hugs. I'm sure the day will come when she no longer plays around when we ask her. When that day does come, I hope she'll appreciate the beauty behind the question, just as I do.
What can you do to ensure those you love KNOW you love them? How can you make it special?
Be open to what comes.