Have you ever been in the presence of others that have the "it" factor? There's just something about them that you can't quite put your finger on, but you KNOW you don't have it?
That happened to me yesterday. I was in the presence of two other people who honestly blew my mind. They had an amazing ability to retain information. They were authentic. They made others in the room feel valued and appreciated. They had impeccable timing - like when to make a joke to make others feel at ease. The way in which these folks spoke their minds, with seeming ease and grace, was exquisit.
My experience has shown me that jealousy is a huge indicator of things we want. Jealousy tells me the specific THING that I want, or the FEELING that that thing offers. I was jealous of their skills.
My initial thought was that I will never be able to do that - to have that kind of impact on others the way they did. I want to leave lasting impressions - maybe not on everyone, and maybe not every conversation. But, I definitely want to when it counts, when it matters most.
I realized that telling myself that I'd never be able to do what they do is LIMITING. My language right then and there limited me to what to expect of myself!
So now, I am letting go of that limiting language. I decide who I want to be and how I show up. I've dramatically changed over the last seven years. I can continue to grow and improve in anything I choose as long as I am willing to earnestly apply myself. (My post about growth mindsets applies here.)
I am capable of having anything I want, including developing new or different behaviors. It won't happen overnight. I must work to cultivate the skills I believe I am lacking. I must pay attention. I must be conscious.
Where might you be limiting yourself? If any, what shifts can you make to attain the life of your dreams?
Be open to what comes.