I had the pleasure of coaching a client today. She's a very busy wife and mother. I heard myself in her stories. I heard a ton of other moms in her stories.
"I don't have time..."
"I can never get to..."
The dizzying array of statements like these convey the disappointment of not being able to do what we want. They convey we're a victim to our own lives. It's not a conscious decision to be a "victim." It's just how we articulate our feelings of overwhelm and helplessness.
Why do we feel like victims from time to time? Maybe we're doing things that don't align with our values. Maybe we feel pressure to participate in events that we would have rather turned down. Or maybe we want to do a ton of things, but there's not enough hours in the day to get it all done. In the end, the common theme typically is that we are put on the back burner and may start to feel resentful.
We need to remember that we get to CHOOSE what we prioritize. We get to CHOOSE how we react to external stimuli. We get to CHOOSE our values. And we get to CHOOSE whether we live in alignment with those values.
Once we accept responsibility for these choices, we manifest the life we want and no longer feel a victim to all that's happening around us. It's immensely freeing. However, even if you adopt this method of living, the chance remains to slip up, especially in challenging times. That's normal. The trick is not to get stuck there.
Wishing you all the freedom of choice.
Be open to what comes.