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Be Your Own Advocate

I want to extend my heartfelt appreciation for everyone that reached out about my mom. She's doing much better now and was released earlier today.

Given her hospitalization was in the forefront of my mind all weekend, I want to issue this public service announcement: Be your own advocate!

When you are hospitalized unexpectedly, there's clearly an urgent need to address. That urgency requires things to happen quickly, for you and around you. That's a good thing. But there is a potential downside, which is ineffective communication.

I believe that my mother's doctors, and most doctors for that matter, have their patient's best interests at heart. With that said, it doesn't mean that everything was communicated in a way that made sense. In the hustle and bustle of the hospital, there wasn't one person coordinating my mother's care to ensure she was updated on all the goings on. As we attempted to process all that had happened and everything going on in the hospital, we found ourselves confused by all the doctors and their varying opinions and dialogue.

Don't get me wrong. I'm not complaining about the care my mother received. I believe she was treated well. I believe the doctor's were thorough. I appreciated the fact that they had a team of people on her case. I'm just noting that it was a double-edged sword.

It's easy to get wrapped up in all the things that appear to be going "wrong" when a loved one is in the hospital. I consciously chose to find the positives. But, that doesn't mean that I just resigned myself to follow whatever the doctors and nurses did or said. I was positive and optimistic, yet feisty and persistent.

In summary, we got the clarification we needed and are happy with the care she received. I'm grateful that my mother has been released and I hope that she's resting comfortably now. I'm also comforted by the fact that she had her family there to support her in advocating for her best interests.

If you find yourself in a similar situation, I hope you, too, treat the care of your loved one as a team effort and not a game of "follow the leader." Don't be shy. Ask questions and be your own advocate!

Be open to what comes.

Ughhh

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