As a mom, it's hard for me to put myself first sometimes. I typically try to take care of others, then myself. I imagine all you mom's do the exact same thing. Worse, I'm sure many of you never even get to your needs because you're too busy taking care of everyone else.
Over the past year, I've done a better job at incorporating my needs into the same pool as others. With that said, it's still a challenge sometimes to FEEL like my needs are just as equal to those of my husband and my daughter.
In advance of Mother's Day, I decided to attend an all-day workshop that focused on women making themselves a priority. The presenters, one of whom is a life coach friend of mine, helped us explore our values and how that drives our decision making and our feelings. Core beliefs, communication techniques, and more were discussed, all in the context of why we place ourselves on the back burner. Strategies were provided as to how to move ourselves to a place of importance. (As the airline instructions go, we must place the facemask on ourselves before helping another.)
Although many of the topics discussed today were not new to me, I still appreciated hearing them and discussing them in new contexts with new friends. It was great to get out of my normal habits and ever-growing to-do list, and just focus on me. I was also happy that my husband and daughter benefited from having me out of the house (Mother's Day prep apparently).
I hope you parents/caregivers MAKE time to prioritize your needs along with those you love.
Be open to what comes.