Compliments are pure power. Kind words said to friends, family, even strangers can have a lasting impact and should never be underestimated.
Today I received a compliment on my daughter's behavior. I was honored and proud of the simple statement. But, it didn't end there. This compliment then went into great detail and specificity about why this person was impressed with my daughter's behavior.
I am extremely conscious of my language with my daughter. I don't want my words, more often than not, to be negative and/or to-do's (Stop. Put your clothes away. No. Stop. Set the table. Stop!). I often make a point to tell my daughter that I appreciate specific behaviors exhibited or actions taken, or that I'm proud of her efforts to work hard at xyz. I know she likes hearing them, and I KNOW it makes her want to try even harder next time.
I think it's vital to convey to my daughter what she does right and does well, along with the areas from which she can learn and improve upon. She's seven for crying out loud. She's growing everyday, making mistakes, and learning. But, even at seven, she has a profound sense of caring for others. She offers sincere compliments to others with whom she comes in contact and genuinely wants to spread joy.
I shared the compliment received today with my daughter and her face lit up. Who's face can you light up today with a great compliment?
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