Sometimes, I don't think kids are given enough credit.
We adults lament at the never-ending crying, whining, and tantrums children whip out at any given moment. We can't quite wrap our brains around why getting the yellow pencil instead of the black one is cause for angst; or why the sandwich not cut just so causes a meltdown.
There are numerous reasons our kids act out. Some seem CRAZY! But, there are plenty of reasons why they exhibit undesirable behaviors. Maybe they're tired, hungry, emotionally hurt, and just plain pissed. And just because they're kids doesn't mean they're not allowed to have those feelings. We gotta help them navigate those challenges.
For all the stressful times, there's just as many awesome ones, if not more. Our kids can give us the most unconditional love that we've ever had. They give us the sweetest kisses and hugs, notes and cards, and homemade gifts.
Not only are they loving, they're smart as whips too. Just recently, my daughter was giving me ideas for her birthday. She's into 18" dolls and was naming off a few accessories. When she mentioned a closet for their clothes, she told me, "That gift would actually be for you, Momma. It would be for you because it would make you happy to not have all the clothes on the floor."
I had to laugh out loud. It was hilarious, because the gift ISN'T for me. I could have easily retorted. But, I didn't. I chose my response. I chose to recognize that my kid's got game. She is implementing persuasion and negotiation techniques. So while one part of me thought her statement was CRAZY, the other was quite impressed.
Our kids learn so much by doing, listening, and engaging with others. Persuasion and negotiation are two elements that will serve her well as she matures. In the meantime, they'll be sources of frustration and humor for me.
Be open to what comes.