I listened to Mastin Kipp's Power and Purpose podcast the other day. He proposes there's a difference between perfection and perfectionism.
He said that perfection is us, as we are. All our strengths, weaknesses, challenges, accomplishments—it's all perfection. It's our life, as designed by a higher power. If we choose to embrace all the goodness and challenge, we can grow into the person we're are meant to be.
Perfectionism, on the other hand, is a block to becoming our greater selves. It prevents us from being vulnerable. It stops us from being real.
I'm a recovered perfectionist. (I'd like to highlight the past tense there.) Aiming for perfection lent itself to disappointment. Every. Single. Time. Plans rarely went perfectly.
I happily freed myself from owning or relating to a perfectionist title a couple of years ago. I now strive for my best and that is it. Instead, aiming for my absolute best has proven both rewarding and fulfilling...never disappointing. When I have a goal, I no longer painstakingly plan every little detail regarding HOW I'm going to accomplish it. Rather, I make plans and take action, but leave a lot of leeway for variance. (I still must plan and act. I'll never reach my goal by sitting on the sidelines.)
Now when my plan seems to derail, I handle it better than I did when I was a perfectionist. Now instead of complaining, griping, and finding someone to blame for my plan not going perfectly, I immediately look to see the value in the change/challenge and what, if anything, I should do next time to improve the outcome.
I have to be honest. I'm not sure if I am on board with the idea that life is perfection. I'll have to give it more thought. For now, what resonates more is the idea of practicing acceptance of what comes and identifying ways to make circumstances work for me, especially when it seems to be a challenge or obstacle.
What do you think? Are you a perfectionist? Do you love it or is it a source of frustration?
Be open to what comes.