Have you ever worried about making the "right" decision?
Ever had to decide between multiple job offers and feared that making the wrong decision would ruin your career? What about deciding whether or not to sign your kid up for the elite sports team? Or, how about how to handle a difficult conversation?
That last topic came up in our household not long ago. Fear of saying the wrong thing had my daughter's stomach in knots. She was super nervous about encountering a friend with whom she had an argument the day before. She struggled with how to approach her friend, because she really wanted the conversation to go well.
After listening to her concerns (thoroughly, I might add), I commended her value of the friendship. I further acknowledged her concern about how her message/feelings would be received. But I also conveyed to her that there was no right or wrong way to have the conversation. No right or wrong words. No right or wrong mannerisms. Her care and concern about the relationship and her friend's feelings was all she needed to enter the dialogue because she only had control over herself. Given her heart and mind were coming from a place of compassion, it would all work out just as it should.
My daughter is seven. I know I'm biased, but was really proud of her level of consciousness around this. When I saw her later that day, she was over the moon about how the conversation went.
What about you? How would things change for you if you believed there was no right or wrong?
Be open to what comes.